My husband wants us to try again after split but it’s not him I long forMarch 24, 2019
DEAR DEIDRE: A WEEK after meeting someone new, I left my husband. He wants us to try again but I love the other guy.
We are both 28 and got married two years ago. We had sex every other month but argued all the time – even on our wedding night. He can be aggressive.
I went to a party with a mate and made an instant connection with another man. He’s 30. We started texting. The messages got very flirty and then he said we should stop because I was married.
But I couldn’t help thinking about him, so I packed my bag and told my husband I don’t love him any more. I left him six weeks ago.
My husband says he still wants us to try again and part of me thinks I should give it a go, like my family say. But the other guy is the one I love, though we haven’t met since.
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DEIDRE SAYS: This other guy shows no sign of wanting anything serious with you. A relationship with him is just a fantasy.
Focus on sorting out your marriage one way or the other. You can organise couple counselling through Relate (relate.org.uk) and your husband has to understand that he needs to stop being aggressive.
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