We struggle to pay bills because my wife can’t work during her cancer treatment

We struggle to pay bills because my wife can’t work during her cancer treatment

May 13, 2019 0 By Today news

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife’s cancer diagnosis has left us both so scared. We have been together for 26 years. I am 47, she is 46.

Our daughter, who is 24, gets married six months from now. My wife was very involved in the wedding planning and tried to ignore her symptoms but eventually she went to see her doctor.

Things have been really hard since my wife was diagnosed with cancer
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Tests showed advanced stomach cancer and they began treatment straight away.

She is having chemotherapy and hopes to be OK for the wedding.

But she can’t work and we are struggling financially.

We have talked about it but there are areas where I do not want to go.

DEIDRE SAYS: It must be very distressing but be careful you are not both putting up barriers for fear of distressing each other.

Above all, tell your wife how much you love her. Financial problems are often a sad side-effect of a cancer diagnosis.

Tell any creditors what is happening so they will be understanding.

You can get help with all your worries – financial, physical and emotional – through Macmillan Cancer Support at (macmillan.org.uk, 0808 808 0000).

My e-leaflet Has Someone Close To You Had Cancer Diagnosed? explains more.


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