After having two kids my wife never wants sexJanuary 12, 2019
DEAR DEIDRE: SINCE our second baby was born, my wife’s sex drive has vanished.
It is always me who initiates sex and 90 per cent of the time she turns me down flat.
We have been married for ten years, with a little boy aged four and a girl of six months. We’re 34.
I have been patient and understanding.
I never cheated or even considered it.
I know we lead busy, stressful lives but I can’t get my wife to do anything romantic any more.
It was my birthday the week before our anniversary and I said not to worry about it but that we should do something special for our anniversary.
She said she couldn’t be bothered.
I know I am jumping to conclusions but I worry she is getting sex elsewhere.
DEIDRE SAYS: It is not unusual for childbirth to cause loss of sex drive and I wonder if your wife has postnatal depression.
Tell her you are worried about her and suggest she see her GP.
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