My fella is leaving me and our baby alone on Xmas so he can spend the day with his exDecember 7, 2018
DEAR DEIDRE: IT was a real shock to find out my boyfriend is planning to spend Christmas Day with the wife he is currently divorcing and not with me and our new baby.
I had been looking forward to our baby’s first Christmas and us being a family.
But I was horrified to hear he was accepting his wife’s invitation to spend Christmas together with their children and his mother-in-law.
He has two kids, aged 12 and 15. I expect him to want to see his kids but at the same time I am hurt as this would be our very first festive season together as new parents ourselves.
I feel I deserve better both for myself and our baby boy. I feel sidelined.
DEIDRE SAYS: Your boyfriend is torn between loyalty to his two older children and your baby. Try and sort this out now rather than it causing distress every December.
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If he can see both families that day, go for that.
Otherwise, agree he should alternate every year.
It may not be your ideal but would set a precedent, putting the children’s feelings first. Your baby won’t even be aware it is Christmas this year.
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