I had sex in an alleyway with a hooker and I feel sick as I’ve got a girlfriend

I had sex in an alleyway with a hooker and I feel sick as I’ve got a girlfriend

November 8, 2018 0 By Today news

DEAR DEIDRE: I HAD sex in an alleyway with a hooker. I have an amazing girlfriend and I’m so ashamed of myself.

It was cheating, I know, but I am not a cheater by nature. I have never done anything like this before in my life.

I had sex in an alleyway with a hooker after a night out with mates
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I’m 25 and my girlfriend is 28. We have been together for three years and we have a really great relationship.

On this night I’d been out with my mate celebrating his 25th birthday. I’d had a few pints but I wasn’t very drunk.

Afterwards I was walking and wasn’t thinking of anything in particular.

I definitely had no plans to cheat but suddenly out of nowhere this woman came up to me offering me sex and I said yes. I have no idea why I agreed.

Out of nowhere this woman came up to me offering me sex and I said yes
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We went up an alleyway. The sex was over in minutes.

I didn’t see her face and didn’t get her name. I have no idea why it happened.

My girlfriend is the love of my life and I know I have messed up big time. I decided to tell her a few days later as the guilt was eating away at me. I felt she deserved to know the truth.

She was devastated and I know she hates me now. She looked at me and said I was disgusting. She has every right to. I don’t expect her to forgive me.

I didn’t see her face and I have no idea why it happened
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My girlfriend doesn’t have many friends or people she can tell and get some sympathy.

She has been hurt in the past and I did the worst thing I possibly could to her. I regret it with all my heart. I feel like screaming.

I’m sick to my stomach. Deep down I think she will leave me. I keep hoping that she will take me back so I can do my absolute best by her and for her.

If I have learned one lesson it is this — don’t ever cheat on your girlfriend because you will end up feeling like absolute scum.

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TWO in five women admit to being sexually dissatisfied.

Often neither they nor their partner understand how different female sexual responses are.

My e-leaflet How To Thrill A Woman In Bed can help.

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DEIDRE SAYS: Telling the truth to your girlfriend may have eased your conscience but it landed her with a whole load of misery and solved nothing.

Still, if you can convince her it was a one-off mistake, she may be prepared to forgive you and give you a chance.

Accept responsibility for your actions. If you didn’t use protection, you need to get checked out in case you have an infection. Go to your local genito-urinary medicine (GUM) clinic.

There’ll be no quick fix. You’ll just have to stick at being ultra-loving, completely truthful and trustworthy for her to start to have faith again.

The other thing you have to deal with is your guilt. You made a mistake. People do. What matters is you learn from it. Promise yourself and your girlfriend you will never make such a mistake again – and that means keeping a lid on the drinking in future.

My e-leaflet Cheating – Can You Get Over It? will help you both.


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